Why you need to stop using scary words!

If you follow me on social media you will know that I have been going on about changing the words that we use for a while now.

As things appear to be shifting again for so many of us, I thought I would share the reasons why the words you use are so important and why you need to stop using scary ones.

The words we use matter because the reaction they create within our bodies produces a chemical response such as cortisol (the primary stress hormone) or dopamine (the happy hormone).

Producing cortisol is a good thing when it happens in short bursts as it protects you from danger such as alerting you to a speeding car coming your way. 

But if your body produces too much, you can suffer from many side effects such as: fatigue, headaches, weight gain, anxiety, depression and irritability. It can also have long term effects on reproductive health.

Reducing your use of scary words will help towards decreasing the amount of cortisol your body produces because if you regularly use alarming words your mind thinks you are in danger because it is very literal.

It does exactly what it thinks you want it to do and what it absolutely believes is in your best interests based on the feelings and beliefs it has registered from your thinking.

Then because your mind responds to the pictures you make in your head and the words you say to yourself when it hears a scary word it imagines the corresponding picture, and as result your body reacts by producing whichever chemical response is appropriate.

Therefore, by reframing your experiences and using less alarming words, it will help to keep your cortisol production in check and, as a result, reduce your stress levels.

A great change, as suggested by Louise Hay, is to swap ‘should’ for ‘could’ because this empowers you to realise that you can choose to do it, or not, rather than feel compelled to.

It puts you in control and that is always a good place to be for your mental health.

Another favourite swap is to change ‘cancelled’ to ‘postponed’, then the sense of loss is minimised and it gives you hope that the event will happen when circumstances allow.

Using ‘excited’ rather than ‘nervous’ tells your mind that something good may be about to happen and so the pictures you are making in your mind are far more positive.

Other recent swaps I’ve made are ‘self-isolation’ has become ‘socially caring’, ‘worry’ has become ‘care about the outcome’ and, ‘attention seeking’ has become ‘searching for connection’. All of these softer and less scary words help to keep that pesky cortisol production under control.

As always, if you need any help with any of this, get in touch💛  xx