Resilience is so important at the best of times, but it is even more so at the moment because, the more we have of it, the greater our chances are of recovering quickly from the challenges we are all currently facing.
It is often said and I fully agree, that resilience is equal to how optimistic you feel because if you are hopeful about the future, it gives you confidence that you will be ok and, if you are confident that you will be ok, you don’t worry.
Things tend to get tricky when there is a feeling of helplessness that comes from believing that things are not in your control and that others have power over your future.
Therefore, if you can increase how optimistic you are, it is an enormous boost for your general wellbeing and for building your resilience.
Mind your language
Reframing situations really helps you to feel more optimistic, I’ve written before about how important the words are that you use and why, you should stop using scary words Why you need to stop using scary words!.
Do you use positive words when you speak to others or engage in self talk? Or, are you critical and judgemental?
We really can be our own worst critics, but changing the way we speak can have a huge impact on our wellbeing.
Practice looking for positive aspects to every situation and using upbeat language, as with everything the more you practice the easier it will become.
Using positive affirmations to yourself each day is also a useful tool to increase optimism. Making positive statements will bring optimistic energy into your present moment. Using them every day will give you a real boost of positive energy, they are even more powerful if you do them in the mirror.
Release your feelings
One of the suggestions I often make to my clients is to spend a few minutes at the end of each day, writing out how you feel. So often we don’t actually know, so checking in with yourself in this way helps you to identify then release your feelings.
Letting things go is the greatest gift you can give to yourself.
When you get into the practice of looking for and then expressing gratitude, you cannot help but to become more optimistic. This is because you will begin to shift your focus to the positive aspects of your life. As a result, you will appreciate who and what you have and, begin to focus more on what you can do rather than what you can’t.
A good way to start getting into the practice of doing this is to write a gratitude list each day. Finding 3-5 things is a good place to start to think about all the things you might otherwise overlook, like a friend checking in or a beautiful sunset, or your lovely warm home.
We have so much to be thankful for and once you get into the habit, the list will be endless.
Sometimes it is good to take a step back and consider what you could change to truly look after yourself. I’ve written before about the importance of taking care of yourself recommending things such as limiting your consumption of the news or, muting a group chat.
If you don’t have a regular self-care practice, this article might help you to understand why.
Self-care is so important to re-charge your energy and cope better with stressful situations. Also, it helps you to maintain a better relationship with yourself as it produces positive feelings which boost your confidence and, self-esteem.
Celebrating every success, even small ones, is a really powerful motivator.
Your mind loves the validation that comes from appreciating your hard work. Equally, if things don’t go to plan, remind yourself that you are practicing until you get it right, a great reframe for recovering perfectionists like me. The more you can do this, the more optimistic you will become because celebrating can only be done from a positive point of view.
If something happens that has seemingly ruined your day, just don’t let it. Instead, choose to let it go and not bother you, remembering that there are so many good things to focus on and experience.
Finally, you actively work on recognising the positive aspects of your life, you will naturally begin to see silver linings in challenging situations. There are so many health benefits to positive thinking and optimism including reduced stress, better coping skills and better psychological and physical well -being.
If you need help with any of this, please get in touch 💛