The weather has definitely changed in my part of the world, the mornings are colder and the evenings are drawing in.
And now that the clocks have changed, it is further indication that the summer is firmly behind us.
I’m a real summer lover, given a choice I would spend every day shuffling between BBQs and picnics and, there are not many other things more thrilling for me than bringing inside a pile of line dried clean clothes.
Before, as summer drew to a close, I told myself that I suffered from Seasonal Affected Disorder as darker days descended. And because I told myself that, of course it became my reality.
As Autumn slid into Winter, I was truly miserable. I mean, I was always miserable but from September to March it was on another level and you really don’t want to know about the stress I created around Christmas.
Doing the inner work has made me realise that each winter I mourned the loss of another summer, I felt I had wasted it being depressed and each Christmas marked another year passing without finding a ‘cure’.
In my recovery, I decided to embrace each season and it has been a revelation. I still feel wistful as we enter September but I am not crippled by an overwhelming feeling of loss.
Even if this doesn’t resonate with you, most of us feel a sensitivity to the changing seasons and feel the need to dig deep in preparation.
Let me share some of things that help me to welcome the transition.
The discovery of ‘hygge’, the Danish way of being has had a big influence on me and I can wholeheartedly recommend the book in the picture.
Hygge is the Norwegian word for wellbeing, and VisitDenmark.com says it means creating a warm atmosphere and enjoying the good things in life with good people. Such a lovely idea.
However, most of us have some sort of challenges in that direction at the moment and so, let’s look at what we can do to create the feeling of hygge in this extraordinary year.
When Danes are asked what they most associate with hygge, an overwhelming 85% will mention candles. For me, there is nothing cosier than having candles burning, they bathe everything in a special glow and I love the symbolism associated with their light.
For this reason, candles are a fundamental part of my Christmas décor, however I light them whenever I can.
As September fades, the slow cooker becomes a permanent fixture in my kitchen. I load it full of goodness in the morning and as the food slowly cooks throughout the day, the smells waft around the house creating a feeling of home.
Heavy duty throws and blankets are added to my sofas as comfort becomes paramount and warmth a vital ingredient.
Having a dog means that I’m out in all sorts of weather, but there is something special about taking a walk through crisp autumnal leaves.
Louise Hay said that there is no such thing as bad weather, just weather and I agree with her now that I wear clothes suitable for the conditions. I love to be out in the wind, snow or rain, the feeling of the elements against my cheeks reminds me that there is so much more to the universe, I find it really soothing.
Taking time to be away from screens is truly restorative for me too.
So here is my recipe for a perfect Autumn into Winter day; take a walk regardless of the weather wrap up warm and snug in a big coat, scarf & wellies. Come home, light the candles, throw the blankets on the couch and eat something delicious from the slow cooker.
As there are far fewer outdoor jobs to do around the house at this time of year and so now, you can seize the opportunity to watch a film, read a book or find a new craft to fill your heart.
Once more, it is about reframing your thoughts and focusing on what this time of year gives us that makes all the difference.
It’s important to mention that Seasonal Affected Disorder can be miserable for those who are super sensitive to the changes and feeling the loss is a very real thing that can be debilitating. If this is you, and you would like some support to understand it get in touch 💛